Hello to all !
This is may be an odd pledge to some. It is pledged in love because I am positive a difference can be made for many.
Today I pledge a way to downsize in my own life to be able to help others.
And I pledge to help those in need help to find ways to make a difference in their lives including the difference between a "lifestyle" of need as opposed to a "once in a lifetime need." There is a difference.
When going through a difficult time we begin considering what to do first,well,it seems we all have a "greatest need."
What is our greatest need?
That need reveals itself when we sit down to be honest with ourselves.
Sometimes that is for counseling to discover a plan,sometimes it's just to sit down and straight up prioritize your live.
Prioritizing your life can mean different things for different people.
Let me give you a simple example:
A bottle of Pepsi (or whatever)a 2 ltr can cost about $1.30.Yet a small bottle of Pepsi (20 oz.) can cost the same.
If this situation were prioritized in a life of someone having financial problems you might think they should buy the 2 ltr.
But the TRUTH is the $1.30 should NOT be spent. Not in a home where there are needs that are things like food,rent,energy needs,christmas gifts.
That's honest prioritizing.
The same goes for cigarettes.
They are so expensive ,cause cancer,etc. yet there was a time that I believed they HELPED me,believed I NEEDED them.
One day I saw the truth..I was lying to myself. They didn't help me,they hurt me and the children.
When I prioritized my life I stopped using excuses for smoking and simply STOPPED. And I never had a cigarette again because I don't smoke. That was in 1990.
More money was then there for the children ,bills, etc. (I smoked all the time)
At today's prices of cigarettes if a poor person put that money away and stopped smoking,they'd be prioritizing their life.
I said all that to say this - Prioritize.
Put your greatest need first. Be honest with yourself about how to save money.
If you or someone you know has a smoking,drug,gambling or alcohol problem help them understand how they are stealing from their children and even themselves. And they MUST get help!
If you are in the position to take action and get this person help do it today! It will be the best gift you could ever give anyone,including yourself.
Addicted is like a leech on you for life . It will not EVER help you and won't make you happy.
But you can by quitting what's wrong and doing what's right.
If this is not your first rodeo during the holidays then you already know where to find help and though there can be new help some years,the biggest help you will ever find is in prioritizing and stopping whatever causes the problem.
HONESTLY,Christmas is at the same time every year.
Is there no point that you understand you will always,as a parent need to LQQK AHEAD?
It is part of parenting. Take it seriously. You owe this much to yourself as well as those children you say you care about! You can get angry with me but please remember,Thanksgiving and Christmas come at the same time every year.You have to plan ahead from July to have anything left by Christmas.
This does NOT include disabled parents who well understand there is never enough!
Pass this message onto others.It can change their life if they listen.
Sincerely,Shezablonde
